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Wedding Planning Madness

Updated: Sep 28, 2020

We're getting MARRIED!

Those of you following along already know this, but still, I am very excited about it! I always thought I would be a wedding planning badass and spoiler alert, I am pretty good at it so far, but nothing goes as smoothly as one may have previously assumed. Overall, everything has been going well; I'm organized and ahead of schedule on everything, so most of the issues come from the uncontrollable variables.... other people. I should preface this by saying, I love everyone involved and we have been able to resolve everything through compromise, but it's still not going as smoothly as I imaged it would.

Assumption: Everyone will be a YES man.

Reality: Friends + Family have opinions.

I truly appreciate everyone's opinions and I am glad my friends and family feel comfortable enough to share them, but I honestly didn't think they'd have opinions, at least not opinions they'd share. Truly, I am grateful for the additional feedback because they've pointed out things that I wouldn't have thought of and it's great to weigh all my options. It is making some things take longer, but I'd rather make the best decision than a quick decision.

Assumption: My groom will wear what I ask him to wear.

Reality: My groom LOVES paisley.

Ian has really taken to creating a sense of style for himself and unfortunately for me, that style includes paisley, the only pattern I cannot stand. I get the appeal and ultimately just want him to be happy so we'll likely end up compromising on this one, but it was unexpected. I don't know where I got the idea that we'd walk into a tux shop and he'd just wear whatever I pulled, that was a silly thing for me to assume, but it has been quite the reality check for me.

Assumption: Vendor interviews won't take long.

Reality: Vendor interviews can be VERY time consuming.

Vendors are a HUGE part of the wedding day and for whatever reason I imagined interviewing them would take 15-30 minutes. I was in for a rude awakening when our first photographer interview lasted a solid hour and 51 minutes, no I am not over exaggerating. At the end of the day, this is a good thing, we're taking time to ensure that our choices vibe well with us, but still, wow. We've interviewed over 8 people for 3 different positions so far and sunk over 10 hours into just interviewing. It's a lot, but I know it will be worth it in the end.

What have I learned? Plan ahead and do what you can to stay ahead of schedule because things take time. Also be flexible, but know when to put your foot down. Some battles have been worth fighting, while others would have been a waste of time and energy. Ultimately this is supposed to be a good experience, so keep that in mind and you will be fine. Don't forget to have fun along the way!